Hello aokandy, this link may give you some idea's of questions to ask.....
http://www.mymalignantmelanoma.com/
It was produced by a member of this forum to help all of us and is used greatly.
The thing about melanoma is not to jump too far ahead, it is a very serious cancer however if caught early enough the prognosis is very, very good - so dont go looking for too much or you'll scare yourself silly.
Can I ask you to repost in the section above the members polls - its called "General Info" and most members tend to look in there and not look anywhere else, tell us how you found your mole and what happened - talking about it oftens helps all of us to understand more, and its good to know your not alone in this; it is a very scary time when initially diagnosed.
Best wishes,
Ally.